Charity's Blog

Life Lessons


Leave a comment

Life on Unemployed Island-A Temporary Stay


“Being unemployed is the true test of who you really are.”

~Ernie J. Zelinski

Imagine being sent to a beautiful island, a vacation away from your employment status, but you no longer are working due to unforeseeable circumstances. So you find yourself in this imaginary place, but wait, you are there of no will of your own. I say imaginary, but the reality is you are in your home trying to make sense of it all and move forward. No one deserves to lose their job but you must decide which way to cope; you pick yourself up and fight or stay down and get run over. Personally, I choose to fight! 

You are in survival mode, but you begin to create a plan.

  • File for re-employment
  • Keep a log of prospective employment applications/ leads
  • Create a daily routine; just because you are home does not mean you will let everything go
  • Remember that your unemployed status is your job; in other words, it is your daily task to look for work 
  • To avoid burn out plan something different for each day, incorporate activity in between your job searches
  • Stay connected with family and friends for support during your journey
  • Keep a journal

Remember, life on “Unemployed Island” does not mean being in the land of misery. Keep your eye on that golden nugget-a new job!


Leave a comment

Strategy at its Best


 You “lost” your job. I don’t think so. You know where that job is. Think of it as the universe telling you it is time to “find” something even better. Trust divine order. 

~Mary-Frances Wintel

If you have worked for a government entity, chances are you are familiar when election time comes around. The top person has to run for re-election, then find that the election is over and a new top official is coming. Employees become nervous due to not knowing if they are let go. It is not an easy pill to swallow to be let go after many years of service.

I never thought this moment would come, but it has. I got fired on February 9, 2021, after eight years of service with the Osceola County Clerk of Court and County Comptroller. I was stunned and dismayed after the HR person delivered the news. 

The excuse I was given was that the new administration is restructuring the HR department where I was assigned. My position was eliminated. Thinking back, I saw it coming. My boss was let go, and the new boss stepped in and did everything by the HR playbook.

I, for one, was a loyal employee, not a troublemaker, and I did my job! I had a lot of time to think about things and how they occurred. In hindsight, it was all strategy. 

  • The isolation, and being excluded from the department meetings. 
  • Receiving work/ projects at the last minute to ensure the employee fails.
  • Supervisors keeping workers at bay only to communicate when necessary. 
  • Being told to do a presentation and not being briefed or included in the planning. 
  • HR not being included in the planning to welcome the new administration, but having other department heads assisting in the welcoming. 

The reassigning of employees from other departments occurred countless times. It was a strategy at its best! As a disgruntled worker, you may see me that way, maybe so, but the irony of this story I knew the person at the top. I believe in giving the employee an opportunity and offer reassignment. The new administration offered no such courtesy. 

My takeaway from my recent experience is to be an advocate represent oneself first and foremost. Don’t be fearful of the outcome. At least you will know that you did everything possible on your behalf. If the organization you work for does not value you, they do not deserve you. It is not worth the aggravation or heartache in the long run. Be of service to others that will value your service.


Leave a comment

Holidays 2020


Our year 2020 is full of so many challenges, with the Coronavirus pandemic at the helm of it all. I find myself worrying more, preoccupied more, and for the most part, missing my family members wanting more time and wanting to create memories to cherish. 

The weekend was full of holiday decor activities and the holiday music in full swing. It made me feel joyful. My heart was full but still lacking, missing, and longing for those times of yesteryear without a care in the world. That has all changed!

Reality Check! Before leaving the house, we must take precautions, mask up, and have our sanitizer handy and gloves. Personally, I don’t wear gloves, but I have my sanitizer with me wherever I go. Wow! How things have changed. 

Christmas is around the corner. I plan a tiny gathering with my immediate family. It has become our new normal, it is the way it is, and God knows for how long. I don’t mean to sound defeated, but I am just trying to keep it real. That is all! 

My hope for 2021? This pandemic will all go away, that is my idealistic way of thinking, but realistically I don’t see the silver lining at the end of the clouds. 

My wish for all is our future with no pandemic, healthier, and full of many possibilities geared for the better in 2021. God bless!


Leave a comment

Don’t Be Fooled by the Average Bear


Have you ever encountered individuals that will look at you and assume that you have fewer smarts? Whether in the workplace or everyday life. Here is a clue: Don’t be fooled by the average bear.

All of my life, I have encountered individuals such as I have described. I figured out since I am, for the most part, quiet, an observer, and don’t give away too much. They automatically assume that you don’t have what it takes. 

The same individuals are surprised when you come up with the information they don’t know or discover your hidden talent. My talents? I blog, love taking pictures, crochet, dabble with online Karaoke, and follow the political arena to name a few. 

Reality check! There are other bears in the forest that are much smarter!


Leave a comment

Good Prevails Over Evil


It looks like Vice-President Biden will be our new president. Good prevails over evil. Trump will not kindly go into the night, but you know what? I hope those who are watching will see him for his true self.

How can President Trump blame our citizens that invest their time in our democracy by making allegations of not following the process? I was in disbelief, and his actions from that podium were dangerous yesterday. It wasn’t comforting! 

I pray that moving forward, we can rebuild, renew, and work towards battling this pandemic by taking charge!

I am not fooling myself. I worry that things will get scary once Vice-President Biden is declared President-Elect. 

I believe that, for the most part, the people of the United States want to get back to some normalcy, not chaos. 

I want unity, not division! God Bless! 


Leave a comment

My Fellow Humans


Can we stop fighting over who is going to win tomorrow? We are human first and foremost; our humanity is at stake. Regardless of the outcome, we need a leader that will get us out of this crisis, the COVID crisis, and the racial crisis. It needs to stop! 

We are in trouble, and if things don’t change? Ask yourselves what this world will be like in the future for our children and grandchildren. I see the bigger picture, and it is disastrous if a shift for the greater good does not occur.  We are doomed!

I sound desperate, and we all should be in a desperate state! 

Tomorrow is the day. Who will it be, Trump vs. Biden? However, your vote? We will live with it for the rest of our lives. 

This election is the most important one. Our lives depend on it, literally! 


Leave a comment

What is in a Nickname?


Do you ever wonder what is in a nickname? Some may say it is a term of endearment, and others may use it as a form of control or insult. I used a nickname as a way to rebel from my given name. 

As a child, I did not like my name, so I rebelled, creating a nickname. I was named after my grandmother, Caridad. The English translation is Charity. I should have gone by Charity, but instead, I wound up with so many nicknames that, to date, many family and friends refer to them; Carilyn, Carolyn, and Carol. 

Since then, I have accepted my name Caridad but what do you do when you are stuck with these alternate nicknames? It is not easy. I have tried alerting my family and friends I no longer go by these names. Their response, “I am used to calling you by these nicknames,” and they refer to these names as terms of endearment. What began as my rebellion has turned into terms of endearment?

Over time I stuck to my ideals, and I no longer use these nicknames, but ever so often, a relative will slip and use one of my old names, but I don’t fuss. It is a habit, but many have adjusted to calling me by my given name. My life lesson? I continue with my given name. I don’t sweat it when someone in my family slips and revert to using a nickname. I keep going!


3 Comments

Don’t be part of a Telenovela


I want to begin with a question. How does gossip in the workplace start? One never knows who to trust and whom to confide in, in a work environment. On a personal note? My rule is to avoid becoming part of a Telenovela. It does not matter the length of time at your job; it is all the same. Gossip is gossip! Honestly, I have been pulled into the web of gossip, and I am here to say that it does not end well. 

I want to list a few things to keep as a reminder of what not to do.

1. Avoid Venting: The chances are that you will become peeved at something at one time or another. The automatic response is to unleash your frustration to a co-worker, not realizing that it can be used against you or taken out of context or worse. If you don’t want your personal stuff to circulate in the office, keep it to yourself. 

2. Avoid Triggers: Many times, someone will tell you. “I am going to tell something, but you can not repeat it.” That is your cue to pivot to something else. Chances are you don’t need to know whatever they want to tell you. Use the following mantra, “it is not their story to tell or yours!” This will not happen overnight. It takes practice over time. 

3. Don’t get sucked in: Don’t let the audience be you. You don’t have to be rude; gently excuse yourself or say you have a time-sensitive work assignment. 

4. Trust: If someone entrusts something in confidence. Don’t repeat it. Keep it in a mental safe deposit box in your head. It is not an easy task to do but with time; you can master the skill and avoid being part of a Telenovela. 

Good luck!


2 Comments

Grateful!


As I sit on my back porch doing my work remotely. I look out to gaze at the vast trees in my backyard overlooking the nature reserve as the sun hits the leaves. My mom is sunbathing, she too, gazes at the wonder of nature. We are truly grateful to be part of such wonder. Many of us overlook the small things such as the sun, the air, and the outdoors’. 

It is tranquil, despite the nearby Gateway airport’s noise with helicopters and small airplanes flying overhead—the sounds of lawns being mowed, and every so often cars passing by. I continue to be grateful. You may be asking, what is my point? My response? Please don’t overlook the everyday things; take it all in and smell the flowers, the trees, and the freshly cut lawns. 

Live for today, be grateful and remember tomorrow is not promised. Make your mark or like in the movie Titanic, “make it count!”