Do you ever wonder what is in a nickname? Some may say it is a term of endearment, and others may use it as a form of control or insult. I used a nickname as a way to rebel from my given name.
As a child, I did not like my name, so I rebelled, creating a nickname. I was named after my grandmother, Caridad. The English translation is Charity. I should have gone by Charity, but instead, I wound up with so many nicknames that, to date, many family and friends refer to them; Carilyn, Carolyn, and Carol.
Since then, I have accepted my name Caridad but what do you do when you are stuck with these alternate nicknames? It is not easy. I have tried alerting my family and friends I no longer go by these names. Their response, “I am used to calling you by these nicknames,” and they refer to these names as terms of endearment. What began as my rebellion has turned into terms of endearment?
Over time I stuck to my ideals, and I no longer use these nicknames, but ever so often, a relative will slip and use one of my old names, but I don’t fuss. It is a habit, but many have adjusted to calling me by my given name. My life lesson? I continue with my given name. I don’t sweat it when someone in my family slips and revert to using a nickname. I keep going!